The Power of Discord
From a neuroscience perspective, resistance and discomfort are an important component of change in general, and change that requires Unlearning in Particular. In this context, here's a recommendation to Ed Tronick's new book, The Power of Discord (Tronick is a leading researcher best known for the Still Face experiment).
It's all about how discord is required to build trust in our own resilience, and how discord is required to build trust with each other.
"...there is no trust without discord because the repair cycle is where the trust is built."